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By Alex Lickerman
I leaned back in my chair and breathed a heavy sigh. My patient, Mr.
Rodriguez (not his real name), noticed my discomfort. “I know I should
quit,” he told me with a guilty shrug of his shoulders. “Have you ever tried?” I asked. “Once,” he replied, “but it didn’t stick.” Mr. Rodriguez had been a pack-a-day smoker for the past 20 years,
something he’d only begrudgingly confessed in response to a standard
inquiry I make of all my first time patients. He didn’t see it as a
problem himself. Or at least he hadn’t mentioned it when I’d asked him
at the beginning of the visit why he’d come to see me.
“Are you aware of all the ways cigarette smoking is bad for you?” I asked.
An alarmingly high proportion of patients know surprisingly little
about all the potential consequences of tobacco smoking. Mr. Rodriguez,
however, was able to come up with two of the major ones: heart attacks
and lung cancer. “Why do you keep smoking when you know it causes heart
attacks and lung cancer?” I asked him. He shrugged, obviously
embarrassed to be caught in a contradiction. But even as I tried to
shame him into wanting to quit by preying on his need to appear
consistent, I knew no contradiction actually existed. I knew this not
because of my medical training or subsequent years of medical practice,
but rather because of my many years of practice as a Buddhist.
THE KEY INGREDIENT TO HAPPINESS
The kind of Buddhism I practice isn’t Zen or Tibetan, the two most
popular forms in the United States, but rather Nichiren Buddhism, named
after its founder, Nichiren Daishonin.
The practice of Nichiren Buddhism doesn’t involve meditation as do the
other more popular forms but rather something even more foreign and
discomforting to those of us raised in the traditions of the
West—chanting. Every morning and every night I chant the phrase Nam-myoho-renge-kyo with a focused determination to challenge my negativity in an effort to give birth to wisdom.
Wisdom, Nichiren Buddhism argues, is the key ingredient to achieving
happiness. And wisdom, rather than knowledge, is what my patient, Mr.
Rodriguez, seemed so desperately lacking. He knew intellectually he
shouldn’t smoke, but that knowledge hadn’t yet penetrated to become
wisdom—to become, in essence, action. Despite his embarrassment, Mr.
Rodriguez presented no contradiction because action never arises from
knowledge alone. It arises from knowledge that is believed. How often
do we understand with our intellects how we ought to behave but
find ourselves unable to do so? Why, for example, do some people know
how to set appropriate boundaries with others, but other people can’t
bring themselves to say no to anyone? Why do some alcoholics figure out
they need to stop drinking and stop, while others state they know they
should, but never do? Why do some people hear advice to quit smoking
and quit that very day, while others smoke on even after heart attacks
and strokes?
The answer lies not just in what we believe but also in the degree to
which we believe it. Deeply held belief—Buddhism (and psychology)
would argue—introduces a critical ingredient necessary for change:
motivation. One of my patients tried and failed to quit smoking for
several years until his wife casually mentioned one day how much she
hated coming home to a smoke-filled house, and he stopped for good the
next day. He’d finally discovered the motivation to quit: a sudden,
burgeoning awareness (that is, a deeply felt belief) of the harm his
smoking was doing not to himself but to his wife. He was ultimately
more capable of believing that his wife’s life was at risk than he was
his own. Not surprising when you consider most of us tend to deny the
possibility of our own death far more vigorously than we deny the
possibility of everyone else’s.
HOW EFFECTIVE IS A DOCTOR’S ADVICE?
“How many of your patients actually quit because you tell them they
should?” Mr. Rodriguez wanted to know after I told him my other
patient’s story. In fact, one meta-analysis tells us on average only 2
out of every 100 smokers told by their physicians to quit will succeed
in establishing long-term abstinence. It’s less clear how many
alcoholics or drug addicts who recognize they’re addicted and need to
quit actually do. But the principle remains the same: some people can
digest intellectual knowledge and translate it into deep and motivating
belief, belief they must change their behavior despite all the
obstacles—and some simply can’t. Specifically, with regard to smokers,
98 out of every 100 can’t.
What, then, is the difference between those two smokers who hear
their physicians’ warnings about the dangers of smoking and for the
first time truly understand it’s time for them to quit and the other 98
who agree they should quit, who may even want to quit, but repeatedly
fail in their attempts? Why did the possibility of losing his wife
motivate one of my patients but not Mr. Rodriguez? Or asked from a
Buddhist perspective, why do some find the wisdom and others do not?
One could argue that Mr. Rodriguez did in fact believe in the dangers
of nicotine, both to himself and his wife, but that he was simply too
addicted to succeed in quitting. I would argue, however, the problem
lay less with the strength of his addiction and more with the weakness
of his belief. If those dangers, which he only weakly believed applied
to himself, could have in some way been brought home to him—as Ebeneezer
Scrooge’s impending death was brought home to him by the Ghost of
Christmas Yet To Come showing him his own tombstone—I’m convinced Mr.
Rodriguez would have been able to resist the pleasure smoking provided
and managed the pain of withdrawal abstention would have produced.
Nichiren Buddhism argues that the true reason for the emergence in the
human mind of new and powerfully motivating belief is perhaps
mystic—meaning, simply, unknowable—which is why I teach residents and
students to ignore the odds and counsel all of their smoking patients to
quit each and every time they see them. Despite our preconceived
expectations that most of our patients won’t be able to listen, clearly
we have no way of predicting which 2 out of every 100 will.
HEALTH AND HAPPINESS
I would argue, therefore, there are two possible approaches to the
practice of medicine and that the second of the two is better. The
first involves diligently providing appropriate advice about smoking
cessation, abstention from alcohol for those who abuse it, or
pharmacological management of depression and anxiety (to name only a few
of the common ailments that affect my patient population).
The second approach, however, involves becoming interested in the
beliefs patients hold that keep them trapped in harmful behavior
patterns. It involves embracing a view of the human mind that
recognizes all behavior arises out of belief and that if we could only
help patients find their way to wisdom, their lives might then become
governed by actions that lead to happiness and joy rather than pain and
suffering. This, then, is how I view the proper role of a physician:
not just as an advocate for patients’ health but for their happiness as
well. While I certainly don’t believe I have all the wisdom my patients
would ever need to solve every problem they face, I am equally certain
they do themselves.
My ultimate aim, then, and, it turns out, the most enjoyable part of
my day, involves encouraging patients to challenge their deeply held
beliefs that, in my view, obstruct their ability to change maladaptive
behaviors. Though I often fail, I am never able to predict with whom I
will succeed, so I approach every patient as a mystery to be solved,
always full of hope. And as he left my office that morning no more
determined to become a non-smoker than when he’d first entered, I
wondered: what do you need to hear, Mr. Rodriguez? What experience
will cause some critical piece of wisdom to penetrate into your heart
and somehow motivate you to save your own life?
Source :
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Thanks to this inspiring article. Smokers will surely be motivated to quit smoking or at least find an alternative like electronic cigarette.
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